It's our anniversary today (six years!), and to be honest I sort of think I said all that needs to be said about the occasion last year. Well, not ALL that needs to be said, but a lot of it, anyway.
There are lots of people who have kept me from falling irrevocably to pieces over the past year, with its unbelievably sucky suckiness, but my husband gets the biggest gold star of all in that regard. Even as he has borne his own grief and anger, he's been right there for me, to help me bear mine, too. Sometimes we take turns being the one in the Bad Place, trading that burden of darkness back and forth, but more often than not, I have been the one lost and despairing, and he has been the one offering me respite and shouldering it all, without hesitation.
Many aspects of adult life are startlingly difficult and, frankly, I don't think I handle a lot of them well; but marriage is one part that suits me perfectly -- at least, marriage to Joe suits me perfectly. I love being in an equal partnership with our unplanned but handy ways of dividing labor (he takes care of finances and dropping off laundry and vaccuuming and cleaning the cat litter; I handle the cooking and the grocery shopping and the social plans and...well, I'm sure I do SOMEthing else around here; and we each unload the dishwasher (horror!) and walk the dog and feed the animals as needed). I love coming home from a run to find him eating his breakfast and reading the paper (and I always get a bit sad when I come home, at any time of the day, and he isn't here, even if it means I can watch something trashy on TV alone). I love the hilarious comments he makes about, well, everything and how he doesn't really know how hilarious he is. I love how, whether we're walking our fast city-people walk or sitting on a plane or lounging on the couch, we reach out at the same time and find each other's hands.
I could go on for days, but it would probably get a little nauseating. Perhaps it already has. Sorry about that. Carry on. I'll save it for a Hallmark card.
Also, I remembered another thing that I'm not that into that everyone else seems to be, and I want to share it with you before I forget:
Krispy Kreme donuts.
I know. I KNOW. This makes me some kind of Commie weirdo, but I don't like them. I like a good cake donut, but I'm not so wild about the glazed wheels of grease that KK puts out.
So, ah, that was a total non sequitur, but I just thought you should know. I hope we can still be friends.
We feel so blessed that as dad said in his wedding toast to you...that in a city of millions of people, you found each other and it couldn't be better. May you enjoy at least as many as we will celebrate tomorrow...41, my goodness!
Posted by: terriwc | June 14, 2009 at 08:43 PM
Aww, happy anniversary! I love Joe--and you too!
Except, WTH about KK doughnuts? How are we friends? I love everything that you don't like!!!
Posted by: Allison | June 14, 2009 at 09:13 PM
Congratulations!
I wanted to tell you - I couldn't remember the 'A Very Young' series you mentioned, so I requested them from the library - took one look at the cover, and ...well, it was like finding an old friend.
Thank you.
Posted by: daysgoby | June 14, 2009 at 10:52 PM
I HATE Krispy Kremes! A cake donut is an entirely different thing, but Krispy Kremes are just gross. Congratulations on your anniversary.
Posted by: Laura | June 14, 2009 at 11:33 PM
Happy Anniversary!!!
Posted by: glenna | June 15, 2009 at 06:57 AM
I don't like Krispy Kremes either, they are NASTY!!!
I hope you had a wonderful anniversary. You both deserve a happy day together.
Posted by: Julie | June 15, 2009 at 08:20 AM
I love a cake donut dipped in coffee.
Posted by: K | June 15, 2009 at 10:53 AM
Happy anniversary!
I do not like cake donuts, so your opinion just means there are more good donuts for me!
Posted by: -R- | June 15, 2009 at 12:09 PM
See, WHY is this heresy? Krispy Kremes suck. I'd take one cake doughnut over a thousand KKs, and gladly.
Posted by: Shana | June 15, 2009 at 12:27 PM
Happy Anniversary! Sorry this has been an incredibly difficult year for you both. Here's hoping for a brighter year ahead.
Hate Krispy Kremes too.
Posted by: Jen K | June 15, 2009 at 12:39 PM
Happy anniversary!
And Krispy Kremes suck. Daylight Donuts, on the other hand, rock.
Posted by: lizgwiz | June 15, 2009 at 01:03 PM
I had forgotten another thing I hate :
Any book by Dan Brown. Terrible author in my opinion
Posted by: Debbie in the UK | June 16, 2009 at 06:25 AM
You are both very lucky!
Posted by: kathy | June 16, 2009 at 11:44 AM
I was all 'Awwwww, how sweet' about your hubby (also? jealous) and then 'holy hell! how did I forget about Krispy Kremes??' I do NOT like them. I don't even like cake donuts at all. How could I forget? Yes, we can TOTALLY still be friends. :)
Posted by: danielle | June 18, 2009 at 11:42 PM
Happy (belated) anniverary. You found yourself a good one (but you already know that). :)
Posted by: Martha | June 28, 2009 at 09:53 PM