I know it's two days early, but some things just can't wait:
Even aside from the naked marching in a diaper and a ski hat, my kid has an enviably busy existence, to the point where I'm considering sending her into the office while I spend the day letting her nanny squire me around. Seriously, look at this -- it's like having Auntie Mame up in here on a daily basis!
They take in high culture:
They run wild in playgrounds:
They meet up with friends ("holding hands and walking together!"):
They get their ya-yas out at the playspace:
They learn about science at the Children's Museum:
They play in the snow (that one was with me, actually, but I didn't want to disturb the theme, and anyway we were only outside for about three minutes before the wind almost blew Felicity away and she said in a wavering voice, "Go back inside?" Then she told me she wanted to "watch the snow falling outside the window instead." I was more than happy to oblige; cold and I are not friends.):
And they rest after all that fun. Whew!
So here is my question, and it's really a curiosity rather than a burning problem:
I know that kids behave a bit differently for different people -- for example, Felicity will eat ANYTHING that her sitter puts in front of her, pretty much, but then she'll refuse the VERY SAME FOOD when I present it to her. She takes longer naps when J is here (I get the shortest nap days when I'm home with her on Friday -- UNFAIR). I understand that other children are this way at daycare versus home; they are napping and eating angels during the week, and then on the weekend with their beleaguered rents, they're picky eaters and non-nappers. I have heard this is because kids test boundaries in different ways for each caregiver/parent, the crafty little buggers.
But what I am curious about is why many toddlers seem to save their biggest meltdowns for Ye Olde Mama? (I...hope that's not just me.)
Mind you, Felicity is not into full-on two-year old tantrum mode yet, and the vast majority of the time she's sweet and happy and mellow and all that. And she does get upset from time to time when she's with Joe or J and I'm not around. It's not EXCLUSIVE to me. Yet there have been many days when she'll be in a mighty fine mood, playing delightfully with someone else, and I'll enter the room and suddenly there is Big Drama about some minor thing. What IS that? It's especially bad if her nanny and I are both here, as if her mind is blown having the two of us in the house with her.
If I'm thinking in the most flattering terms, I like to tell myself that Felicity loses it around me more because she feels the most emotionally secure with me and knows she can let go however she needs to, but I suspect I'm kidding myself. Is it a manipulation thing? She doesn't seem to have a real motive for it; it's not like I give her candy and balloons when she has a meltdown and I give her plenty of positive attention when she's happy. Perhaps the overwhelming love for their mothers scrambles their little toddler brains and they lose their ability to coherently express themselves for a few minutes? (Haaaa, that must be it!) What do you think?